WHY do men CHEAT?

Men cheat in relationships for different reasons. This article will not cover every reason men cheat because it would be too lengthy.In order to bring some clarity to the subject, it is important to understand the way that men think. Have you ever noticed how men look at women who pass by on the street, in the mall, or in public? It is nearly impossible for a man to ignore a beautiful woman when she passes by. Men are very visual. It has been argued that men have sexual thoughts every 52 seconds while woman have 2 to 3 sexual thoughts per day. Think about that for a minute. The answer to why men cheat is in the above statistic. Women have been getting it wrong for centuries. There are women who have been taught that men are visual creatures, and the only way to keep a "visual creature" is to look good all of the time and have lots of sex.
My question is...how much sex can you have in a day, week, or month, before you burn out? How often are you going to roll out of bed with sweet smelling breath and a face full of make-up? Do you see how unrealistic this is? A woman will never keep a man solely because she looks good and performs well in bed. He will continue to cheat if this is all you can offer him. Have you ever noticed how dysfunctional Hollywood relationships are? These celebrities swap partners as if they were clothing!. They have looks, wealth, fame, and fortune, yet they fail in relationships. What is wrong with this picture? O.K...here is the answer. If you want a lasting relationship with a man, or if you desire to make your relationship "cheat-proof", you have to become more than just a sexual thought in his imagination.
If all you are is his "barbie", then you can hang up your wishes of him not cheating on you. It is not sex(alone) that keeps a man from cheating. A man has to make a deep connection between his woman and his heart, not her "looks" or her "body". When a man is tempted to cheat, he will always count the cost. If you are nothing more than a sexual thrill to him, he will cheat with ease. If you have established a place in his heart, he will fight the temptation to cheat. You have to bring something deeper to the table. Humor, intellect, and compassion, are just some of the things that a woman must possess in order to attract the right man and make the relationship "cheat proof". Remember to keep the relationship fresh by consistently dating one another the same way you did when you first met. One of the reasons men cheat is because of boredom. Never take the relationship for granted simply because you have been together for so long. Men are not as vocal as women and they tend to keep their feelings inside. Once a man feels disconnected, he is hard to win back. Don't allow your relationship to be so boring that your man seeks excitement elsewhere and withdraws from the relationship.
Most of today's singers are wrong when it comes to "cheat proofing" your relationship. They tell you to "back that thang up", "shake what your mama gave you", "do it like no one can", "drop it like its hot". But what they don't tell you is that most of them have been cheated on because they don't have any substance to contribute to the relationship. Remember, sex will not keep a man from cheating, neither will having his baby keep him from cheating. Stop taking advice from people who are unsuccessful in their own relationships. It is important that a man be spiritual as well. There are times in a relationship where the woman is doing all of the right things but the man still cheats. A man who allows his faith to hold him accountable when no one else is around, will resist the temptation to cheat. I cannot over emphasize this enough. People who have no spiritual foundation at all, pay little attention to their conscience when it comes to relationships. This is not to say that only spiritual people have good relationships, but it does make a difference.
If you use this advice and begin to invest in your personal development as a woman, you will begin to see improvements in your relationship. This is not a cure for cheating, but it will definitely narrow the chances of your man straying. Remember, a man will sleep with another woman because she looks good, but he will only have a relationship with someone who has gained his trust and has aroused him mentally. If you want to know more about why men cheat, or how to stop your man from cheating, click the link below.
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10 Things women should NEVER do on a first date.

Well, here we go again. I cannot begin to tell you how important it is to monitor your behavior when it comes to dating. What women EVERYWHERE need to understand is that MEN are like blood hounds...you know...the dogs? We can sniff out "desperate" women like a shark sniffs out blood from up to a mile away. Listen closely. Here are just a few No-No's when it comes to dating.

1. NEVER tell a guy that you've been "searching" for Mr.Right. This can come across the wrong way.
2. NEVER "cook" for some guy who you've just met. You might come across as his "Mama".
3. NEVER dress like a slut. This will only get you laid...then left!
4. NEVER talk about the last guy who broke your heart.
5. NEVER over-talk. Let him have the opportunity to get a word in.
6. NEVER take a guy to your home. There are crazy people in the world and the last thing you want is some "whacked-out" guy showing up at your house "after" you've broke off the relationship.
7. NEVER volunteer to pay for the first date. Any man worth his salt WILL pay for the meal or movie. BUT, it doesn't hurt to keep some extra cash just in case. A "slacker" is born every day.
8. NEVER act "clingy" with a guy. This will definitely run a good one off.
9. NEVER introduce a guy you've just met to your children.
10. NEVER act like you know everything. There's nothing worse than a know-it-all. Furthermore, men have "egos", let him feel like he's smart.

These are just a few of the things that the "desperate" woman does. Remember, you want to attract the right man-not run him off.

What's on my mind..

Hello everyone. I hope you guys are doing better out there in "relationship land". I was just sitting here thinking about the love of my life for the past 17 years, my lovely wife Tamika. She has recently stepped out on faith and started her new catering business. I must admit, my wife can really "burn"...cook that is. I would always get upset after eating one of her signature meals. Not because the meal was bad, but because I knew that she was sitting on a goldmine. After eating her food I would think," we should be selling this stuff". I convinced her to make desert for a few people and they all gave the same reaction. One of the guys immediately said that he wanted her to make some deserts for his party.

I know you guys are probably thinking, "what does this have to do with relationships?" The point is, I will do anything for my wife. I couldn't imagine seeing her struggling without my support. There are women in relationships who only wish that their significant other would support them in whatever it is that they're doing. I truly believe that I can not be my best without my wife's support. I'm sure she feels the same way I do. Let me encourage you ladies out there who may be discouraged from doing whatever it is that you love because you have no support from those around you: Don't give up on your dreams. This may be a time where you have to encourage yourself concerning the vision that you have for your future. Consider evaluating your relationship.

Does the man in your life support you? Does he encourage you to be your best? Does he become excited when you show enthusiasm about something in your life? Is he willing to sacrifice in order for your dreams to come true? If not, you may have a problem on your hands. Those who say that they love us should show that love through their actions toward us. Well, until next time, be well:)



W.R Scott

The #1 Dating Mistake that Women Make...Bar None!

OK women, let's get right to it. Can you guess what the number one mistake is that women make when dating? Because of this mistake, women are left feeling depressed and empty. I often ask women the question, "what is the most precious gift that you can give to someone you love?" Some women say that time is the most precious gift. Others say that love is the most precious gift that you can give. Though these things are very important, and precious, they are not the cause for failure in a relationship. The number one dating mistake that women make is sex. Having sex before a guaranteed commitment has devastating consequences. First, let me explain what I mean by "guaranteed commitment". I know there are those who say that marriage is just a "piece of paper" or that marriage is not a "guarantee" to commitment-but the facts will outweigh these opposing views.


I have counselled hundreds of women who say that marriage, to them, is the ultimate show of commitment. These women said that if the man whom they were dating did not intend on "ever" marrying them, they would end that relationship immediately. Let's face it, women want commitment. I'm not saying that you have to get married in order to date, nor am I saying that you have to want to get married. What I am saying is that you should raise the bar. There are men who will wreck the lives of women who sleep with them too quickly. You MUST understand this if you are going to be in the dating world. There are three distinct types of men in the dating field:

1. The Player






2. The "Renter with the Option to buy"






3. The long term relationship seeker

The player is the guy who hangs out at the bar, the church, the bookstore, the club, the gym, looking for the loose, lonely, or desperate woman who they can have sex with (without commitment). This is the primary goal of the player. He does not know what commitment is nor does he care to know. The player can be very persistent, usually hanging around for weeks, even months, until he gets what he wants. The best way to deal with these kind of men is to tell them "directly" that you are not interested in the player games-and that you are a serious women prepared for a serious man. the average player will retreat with his tail between his legs after hearing this.(more concerning the player in another article)

The next guy is the "renter with the option to buy". This is the guy who will tell you that he's interested in a long-term relationship but will watch to see whether or not you are going to cook, clean, and do anything else he ask. He is the guy who just wants to "rent" you, not commit to you. He wants you to do his every bidding while he continues to play the field. His mindset is,"I'm gonna keep her around". In other words, he allots himself the "option" to commit in the future, or the "option" not to. A person who rents a home for a year with the "option" to buy can simply walk away after the end of the lease. No questions asked. At this point you have given this man your time, money, and body. You've lived under the same roof for years and grew accustomed to him. Then he decides that he doesn't want to "buy". He walks away just like the renter! That's why this type of relationship can turn out to be the worst of all. Beware of the "renter with the option".

Finally, there is the long-term relationship seeker. This is the one you want. But don't get too excited. These types of men know what they want, and they know what their able to give. They seek for women who have taken the time to evaluate themselves to see if they are candidates for commitment. This is where being honest with yourself comes in. Are you ready to be committed? Have you given yourself enough time to reflect on the mistakes that you may have made in past relationships? You cannot just give yourself to every man who you think is "the one", or think is cute. Once you have given away the most sacred part of you , you can't take it back. Having sex while dating will almost always lead to heartache. Men do not have respect for a woman who gives herself to them without a commitment. He figures that if your going to do it with him, then you would do it with the next man.

I hope that this short article has helped you in some way. It is important to remember that you teach people how to treat you by the way you treat yourself. Respect YOU, and others will do the same too.

W.R Scott

More Dating Advise for Women by: W.R Scott

I hear women say all the time, "There are no more good men out there". I can't help but to shake my head in pity for these poor women. What makes them think that way? The truth is there are millions-upon-millions of eligible men who are searching for that ideal woman that they can spoil and make feel like a queen. Wouldn't you love for this to be you? The problem with most women is that they don't know what it takes to attract a good man and have a lasting relationship. It all begins with what I like to call the fairy tale perception. The fairy tale perception is taught to women while their still little girls. You find this false perception in cartoons like Cinderella or The Sleeping Beauty. My favorite is the Sleeping Beauty. One would assume that women do not have such unrealistic expectations when it comes to attracting the right man, but that couldn't be farther from the truth.

The truth is women are still living their lives sleeping (like the beauty), hoping for the tall, dark, and handsome prince to come in on his white stallion-and sweep them off their feet with his magical kiss. The silver screen has become the dictator of what it means to have a lasting relationship. Women flock to the TV to catch their favorite episode of "Desperate Housewives" or "sex in the city", hoping to get some insight on how to have a successful relationship. It seems that women everywhere have lost faith in dating and relationship. Hopes of falling in love, getting married, and having children, have been replaced by a "get what you can get" attitude. Well, are you ready for a change? Good. The first thing you have to do is get rid of all of the misinformation that you received throughout your lifetime. That's right! You have to abandon everything you were taught about men that caused you to feel the way you do about them. Women who have been burned in a relationship have the tendency to give biased advice.

Some of these women are your sisters, aunts, grandmothers, and yes...even some mothers.
The advice that they give you about lasting relationships was based primarily upon their personal experiences and not on the facts. Have you ever had someone tell you that a certain movie was bad, and then you went and saw it yourself, only to find out that it was one of the best movies you've ever seen? Or have you ever had someone to tell you that a certain restaurant was good but when you ate there you found that it was the total opposite of what they said it was? This is just a few examples of why you should never let someone else's experience become your reality. It's time for you to experience that love in your life that defies all that you thought you ever new about attracting men-and lasting relationships. As I stated earlier, men are not to be sought after, they are to be ATTRACTED.

If you desire to attract a man, YOU must become attractive. Stop listening to your unhappy friends and begin to change how you think. Before anything can remotely begin to change in your life, you have to first change the way you think. Negative thinking is unattractive. You have to believe that you can attract any man you want...and keep him, regardless of your past failures.

Do you really know how to attract a man? by: W.R Scott

Have you ever gone by a Krispy Kreme shop and smelled the scent of those "original glazed" donuts? Isn't it amazing how your senses created a desire for something that you were not even thinking about? You were listening to your favorite song on the radio, then out of nowhere..."BAM"...It hits you. What if I told you that attracting a man is the same way? Just like the aroma from the donuts enticed you, the scent of an attractive woman entices men. I'm not talking about the scent of perfume here. The scent that I'm talking about doesn't come from a bottle. Humans are influenced by their five senses: touch, taste, smell, sight, and hearing. When it comes to attracting the right man, you need to know that he will not commit to you simply because you smell, look, and sound good.

There are a lot of lonely women out there who look and smell great. A truly good man will be attracted to a woman who presents more than just physical attractiveness. He looks beyond the exterior of a woman in order to find the substance that will guarantee you his commitment. Take inventory of yourself. How do you view yourself? Are you confident? If so, why are you confident? Is it because you have a thriving career...a BMW...lots of friends..etc? How do you express that confidence? How do others view you? These are the questions that you have to ask yourself. Most women simply get all "dolled up" and then go out searching for a man. They never take the time to become acquainted with themselves first, before jumping into a relationship.

Find someone who you trust, someone who will tell you the truth, and then ask them their opinion of you. It works best if the person is a male, since it's a man that you're trying to attract. Value and respect their feedback. Don't be afraid of what they might tell you. You do want to learn how to attract a good man...right? I truly believe that the things in life that are most valuable, come with a price. Preparation for a lasting relationship is the price that you must be willing to pay. This is your life that we are talking about. Don't sell yourself short because you're too lazy to put in the work. If you're ready to go even deeper into the mind of men, and you're ready to learn how to attract any man, CLICK HERE.



W.R.L Scott