The #1 Dating Mistake that Women Make...Bar None!

OK women, let's get right to it. Can you guess what the number one mistake is that women make when dating? Because of this mistake, women are left feeling depressed and empty. I often ask women the question, "what is the most precious gift that you can give to someone you love?" Some women say that time is the most precious gift. Others say that love is the most precious gift that you can give. Though these things are very important, and precious, they are not the cause for failure in a relationship. The number one dating mistake that women make is sex. Having sex before a guaranteed commitment has devastating consequences. First, let me explain what I mean by "guaranteed commitment". I know there are those who say that marriage is just a "piece of paper" or that marriage is not a "guarantee" to commitment-but the facts will outweigh these opposing views.


I have counselled hundreds of women who say that marriage, to them, is the ultimate show of commitment. These women said that if the man whom they were dating did not intend on "ever" marrying them, they would end that relationship immediately. Let's face it, women want commitment. I'm not saying that you have to get married in order to date, nor am I saying that you have to want to get married. What I am saying is that you should raise the bar. There are men who will wreck the lives of women who sleep with them too quickly. You MUST understand this if you are going to be in the dating world. There are three distinct types of men in the dating field:

1. The Player






2. The "Renter with the Option to buy"






3. The long term relationship seeker

The player is the guy who hangs out at the bar, the church, the bookstore, the club, the gym, looking for the loose, lonely, or desperate woman who they can have sex with (without commitment). This is the primary goal of the player. He does not know what commitment is nor does he care to know. The player can be very persistent, usually hanging around for weeks, even months, until he gets what he wants. The best way to deal with these kind of men is to tell them "directly" that you are not interested in the player games-and that you are a serious women prepared for a serious man. the average player will retreat with his tail between his legs after hearing this.(more concerning the player in another article)

The next guy is the "renter with the option to buy". This is the guy who will tell you that he's interested in a long-term relationship but will watch to see whether or not you are going to cook, clean, and do anything else he ask. He is the guy who just wants to "rent" you, not commit to you. He wants you to do his every bidding while he continues to play the field. His mindset is,"I'm gonna keep her around". In other words, he allots himself the "option" to commit in the future, or the "option" not to. A person who rents a home for a year with the "option" to buy can simply walk away after the end of the lease. No questions asked. At this point you have given this man your time, money, and body. You've lived under the same roof for years and grew accustomed to him. Then he decides that he doesn't want to "buy". He walks away just like the renter! That's why this type of relationship can turn out to be the worst of all. Beware of the "renter with the option".

Finally, there is the long-term relationship seeker. This is the one you want. But don't get too excited. These types of men know what they want, and they know what their able to give. They seek for women who have taken the time to evaluate themselves to see if they are candidates for commitment. This is where being honest with yourself comes in. Are you ready to be committed? Have you given yourself enough time to reflect on the mistakes that you may have made in past relationships? You cannot just give yourself to every man who you think is "the one", or think is cute. Once you have given away the most sacred part of you , you can't take it back. Having sex while dating will almost always lead to heartache. Men do not have respect for a woman who gives herself to them without a commitment. He figures that if your going to do it with him, then you would do it with the next man.

I hope that this short article has helped you in some way. It is important to remember that you teach people how to treat you by the way you treat yourself. Respect YOU, and others will do the same too.

W.R Scott